alright guys, i got my first mail, i am so excited! this is from annoynomus, concerning some hurt between friends. person who sent this e-mail, i’m going to call you kanye, since that name stood out in your email and i don’t want to be all he/she throughout this whole thing, so here i go, i hope i can help. you hurt your friends, don’t we all hon? we all tend to do things to hurt people, even if we don’t mean to. but they don’t know that. like right now, i’m going through a really rough, mental time. i have constant breakdowns and i feel like i should isolate myself from everybody. my best friend, i haven’t seen her since march, and she’s been calling up the ying yang. even if i explained to her my situation, i still haven’t come full circle to her. i feel like i’m saving her from my inner turmoil, by avoiding her. and yet its probably killing her. you see i made a mistake without trying to put in any harm, but yet it will still harm the other person. just as it has to your friends. i’ll tell you right now, nobody is right or wrong in your situation. i can’t tell you your friends are right for ignoring you, i can’t tell you you’re wrong for speaking your mind. because people do what they will, i’ve learned that the hard way, and i’ve learned it through roleplaying as well. you can’t hate them for being hurt, you can’t hate yourself for being honest. people can only try to understand others through each other’s eyes, which they seem to not be able to do since they want to be right. everybody wants to feel right, because feeling wrong sucks. so don’t feel as though they’re heartless, because they don’t understand. but see, throughout the sadness, you found a source of light. your best friend came back to you. just like how those friends will come back to you too. and if hey don’t, then life goes on. you can make new ones, as scary as that sounds. i know i’ve lost all mine, and i’m scared to go out and find some new personalities to connect with. but i gotta do it. and if that happens, then you gotta do it too, because people shouldn’t live alone, and you sound like the type that loves people so don’t do that to yourself. now, for a possible solution. i know you didn’t mean to do what you did, but if you really want these friends back, they aren’t going to come to you. they feel like they can’t trust you, hence the harsh slamming. if you want them back on your good graces, you’ll have to talk to them. don’t jump on the gun and be all ‘lalala you bitches are mean for acting this way,’ thats not going to make them any less unforgiveable. take it slow, and nice. say you were sorry for hurting their feelings, but your opinion still stands. and that despite its standing, it shouldn’t have effected the bond between you and them. and if that doesn’t sit well with them despite the apology, then move on. you did your part, now its time for them to decide when they’ll be a little more forgiving. it might be hard, it might make you cry, but you’re just as human as i am kanye. and so are your friends. defense is easy, forgiving is harder. but you have to give it and them time, so long as you apologize for their hurt feelings, you’ll be solid. and continue to build on your old friendship with your best frind, that’ll be good for you. but like i said, if the apology doesn’t work, then find new friends. theres billions of people out there. if this is happening online, fine new places to meet them. if this is happening in reality, if you work, make friends with your co-workers. get a hobby and meet people through that. maybe join a club at your school, something that interests you so you and the same person can talk about it. they’re out there baby, you just gotta pick out the apples from the blossoms. so i hope this helped you, and if you need me afterwards, you know i’m here to blog again for you. onto the next issue!
love you and hope it’ll go well kanye!
xoxo,
kirstin
well hello everybody, welcome to the blog! this isn’t some annoynomus blog, i’ll telling you that right now. its me, kirstin, SHOCKER?! anyways, for awhile i’ve been thinking about doing this, and i really have no place to put it. so tumblr will suffice, i know its totally not original. but hey, give me my kudos for even bothering. so throughout this entire last year, i’ve been doing something i don’t usually get to do in real life. helping people. not physically, but mentally. i go out of my way to offer a hand or shoulder for somebody to grab and lean on, and i’d like to think its done alot of good. at least, people tell me i’ve helped them. and apparently a person that came to me, said, “out of all the people they told me you were the best choice.” so i guess i’ve kinda became an online therapist? beyond my roleplaying, i try to make reason for everybody that goes through shit, whether its online or offline. i like helping people. not because it makes me feel good, but because i like making a difference, and making people see light when they can’t see anything but dark. i can tell you right now, i haven’t been through much at all. no drugs, no sex, no craz boyfriends, but i have indeed been to incredibly dark places. i didn’t graduate high school (i plan to finish mind you) but i think i’m smarter then people, and i, give myself credit for. i’m very in tune with my own self, my therapist pointed that out, because not many people can realize their own faults or doings. so hence, why i think i can help people, i can shed light on the things they tend to avoid or can’t exactly figure out. i’m telling you right now, i’m not super woman. maybe none of what i give you is relevant, or helps. but i will try my damnest, i promise. because i know what it feels like to be screaming, yet nobody hears you. but i do. i want to hear you, i want to stop you from making the worst decision of your life, or from feeling like you’re not worthy of anything at all. i can’t apply this advice to myself for some reason, but i can sure as hell apply it to you all. so this blog, i’m going to supply you with an email. you email me with your problem, your questions, about real life or roleplay, whatever the hell you want. and if you want to remain nameless in it, tell me. but i will post a blog on here saying what the problem is, and i will answer it the best i can for you. so people can see and already get answers if they have the same question. i’m going to be honest. i might be harsh if you’re being silly. i might completely want to cuddle you under my arm. it all just depends, but be ready for it if you’re going to open wide to me, i’ll be gentle though, i promise. if all goes well with this, then we’ll see what happens! but indulge me, i might just help you out for all its worth, or i could fail and retire from being an online therapist, lol. give me a try? i’m free…haha that sounds bad!
HOWTOSAVEALIFExxx@yahoo.com is the email. put in the description, dear kirstin so i know you’re seeking advice. leave me comments or anything else if you please as well. hate mail? lmfao go for it, i’ll just send it to junk mail. i’m a free ear tat won’t judge, what could hurt? i’ll try and answer these asapa and help to the best of my ability, but remember, just because i’ve helped some doesn’t mean i’ll help all. but my efforts should be enough to let you know, i care.
